Category Archives: Breaking Down Goals

If the World Were Perfect, it Wouldn’t Be: The Destructive Force of Perfectionism

Perfectionism is perhaps one of the most destructive “goals” someone can have. It’s perhaps #1 on many a list of many a client, and it’s their #1 frustration. The #1 source of disappointment, anger, resentment, despair and just about any other mental block-creating emotion and thought pattern someone can have.

But how can this be?

Isn’t perfection exactly what you should seek? Isn’t that the highest state of living we can achieve? Where we’ll find peace, harmony and happiness? Where we’ll be free from all our mistakes and flaws and everything that’s wrong in our lives and our surroundings?

That’s the idea. But that’s also how we destroy much of what we have in our life that’s already pretty terrific. Read more →


Wednesday Tip Jar: 6 Ways to Eradicate To-Do List Overwhelm

When it comes to goals, most of the time, it’s obvious what needs your attention first, or at least what you want to attend to first if there isn’t a particular order. But sometimes, when your to do list feels overwhelming—either because there are so many items on it, or because your mental wherewithal has gone the way of the dodo—it’s hard to find a place to start.

Today’s tips are ones I’ve found quite helpful when I’m there myself for breaking the list down into smaller, far more digestible chunks. Read more →


Easy as 1, 2, 3, 4: The Four Stages of Learning

Learning anything new, as you’ve read, takes practice—at least when it comes to creating a new habit. I’ve often talked about how doing so requires generating awareness/mindfulness around what it is you want to change or create. But that, too, is also a new skill to create.

That’s where awareness and mindfulness are key. Which means you then need to create awareness and mindfulness around creating awaerness and mindfulness to create awareness and—

Ack! It’s a wonder we can make any changes isn’t it? Learning, it seems, is more like a funhouse mirror ride where we see hundreds of images reflected back and back and back.

So, how, then, do we create change/changes in our lives? Read more →


Wednesday Tip Jar: 6 Questions to Ask When You Feel Stuck

These questions are ones I’ve personally found quite helpful when it comes to times I feel like I’m walking on a treadmill, rather than an open road, in trying to reach my goals. Meaning, I’m putting in a lot of effort but…but I feel like I’m not getting anywhere. Read more →


Wednesday Tip Jar: 6 Questions to Ask Yourself to Reach Your Goals

Here at Small Change Life Coaching, I put the focus is on making small changes to generate momentum towards bigger goals. Often, when we have lofty goals, they can seem unreachable…and so we either don’t try, or we lose motivation really fast.

When that happens, our goal becomes (or remains) a problem, rather than something with a solution.

Here are 6 questions you can ask yourself to keep that momentum of creation going. Read more →