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Wednesday Tip Jar: 6 Tips for Dealing With Unsupportive People

Everyone I’ve ever spoken to who has begun a journey of working on a new goal has run into at least one negative person. Someone who denounces their efforts and spits out continual remarks of how stupid the efforts are.

It’s hard to deal with these people, I know. So today I’m going to give you 6 tips I’ve used in my own life when I run into these folks. Read more →

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Keep Other People’s Doubts at Bay

doubtsThere’s a big difference in doubting the process of reaching your goals and yourself so you can–find weak points clamoring for improvement–from a standpoint of I-can-do-this-I-just-don’t-know-how-yet–and doubting yourself from a place of conviction you can’t.  As in impossibility.

So many people have the (unconscious) belief that they can’t have their dreams and goals from the same finality that they can’t grow an oak tree out of their kneecap.  (Well, not that you’d want to do that, but it makes a point!)

When you start making changes, when you start towards a new goal  you start walking a new walk, and so your legs will be somewhat shaky. Old self-doubts can rear up, ones you thought were long since put to rest. Maybe you even know perseverance is key…but maybe you’re dancing with more uncertainty than ever before.

When that happens it’s a choice to either listen to it and let it control you, or say, politely, “Thanks, but no thanks.” At first, this may be hard, but if you keep saying that, you start to believe it on a fundamentally-deep level. Read more →

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