The languishing comes from a variety of reasons…most often from trying to do too much all at once thinking that will create a smashing figure that will slap our body onto Shape or Men’s Fitness in just a wee little month. Or less.
And then there’s the burnout. Oh, the burnout.
What I’m going to share with you here are the tips and tricks I’ve learned over the last twelve years so you don’t hit that burnout or walls. I’ve already hit them for you. No need for two of us nursing sore noggins.
Do I know what I’m talking about here? What makes me an expert?
Well, first I’ll say I’m not an expert on you. I’m only an expert on me. You’re the expert on you. I’m happy to answer questions to help guide you toward your own expertise, but I sure don’t know what’s right for you and what isn’t. But what I can do, from my more than ten years of experience as a Life Coach is help you discover what is / isn’t / does / doesn’t work for you when it comes to goal setting, how you reach them self-talk lurking in the background, and all that stuff that gets in the way and we don’t even realize it.
Heck — I’m still trying to figure that out for myself. So…maybe I’m not even an expert on me! I’m lots better though.
But I can say I understand the struggles and confusion. The clinging to Long Held Beliefs instilled by Everybody Knows That. The frustrations of tallying up the fact I’ve burned up enough calories over a month to provide energy to a small West African hamlet, but haven’t seen the numbers on my scale budge. It’s probably a good thing I don’t own a sledgehammer, as I’d have likely smashed up about four scales by now. Even five or six.
I realize my smiling head, floating against a sea of acoustic tiles in an office doesn’t show much of me, so I share with you these two photos; the one on the left was after I put quite a bit of weight back on after losing about 65 lbs in 2000 and 2001 (picture on the left is about three years ago; one on the right is last July of 2011):
(Personally, I love the fact the “after” photo shows me cutting into my 40th birthday cake…but hey. It’s my 40th birthday cake.) The same birthday I hired a former US Navy SEAL — Brad McLeod as my coach — he’s now a good friend of mine and has a terrific website at SEAL Grinder PT. As with CrossFit (another form of fitness close to my heart), his workouts are fully scalable, and Brad loves answering questions, too.
I’m not here to try to convince you My Way is The Best Way or that you, too, need to go out and forage for a SEAL to train you to bounce you into tip-top health (at least — not right away). My plan — my “Mission Statement” — is to help you see that your Big Resolution made squarely on the atomic clock strike of midnight on New Years is doable. Just in small steps, and small changes. I don’t even have a gym membership, other than the package deal I purchase for the CrossFit gym I attend.
You don’t need fancy weight machines or expensive equipment. You don’t even need a gym membership. You just need you, a floor, a high school track perhaps, some gallon jugs to fill up with water or sand and a little ingenuity and no more than maybe 10-20 minutes a day. That’s right — 10-20 minutes a day. Or even every other day. Not Indy 500 laps on the treadmill that would make the Road Runner pass out and then a day of working on one set of muscles and then another (biggest waste of time, if you ask me, when you can do one routine that hits everything).
So what I’ll present here is all the stuff I’ve found enormously helpful (as well as information that flopped about as gracefully as an elephant diving into a pool) and you can pick and choose what works. I’m also here to help you identify the mental (stumbling) blocks that can — and do — unconsciously sabotage your best efforts.
I don’t expect everyone to agree with me or the information I present. All I ask is that you merely read what I provide with an open mind, and to make one small change each day. One small change that puts you towards your goal still puts you towards your goal. And even setbacks do, too, because they (1) happen, (2) happen, (3) happen and (4) provide an excellent opportunity merely to modify the plan in action. Not a big deal unless I choose to make it a big deal.
The only New Year’s resolution I ever kept was one I made about 20 years ago when I realized that waiting for New Year’s Day to roll around before I made any changes was stupid. Resolutions aren’t just yearly utterances. They can be made every day. So I resolved never to make another New Year’s resolution. And I’ve kept it. Because each day — each hour and moment of each day — allows for the exact same opportunity that stroke of midnight does.
So how about making that first small change right now to never, ever again make another New Year’s resolution?
And once you’ve done that, what’s just one more small thing you could do for yourself — right now — that puts you in that direction of your goals? Tell me what they are. I’d love to hear your successes and your frustrations. Leave a comment below, send me an email — or stop by the discussion forum.
Shoot me questions at heather (at) smallchangelife (dot) org, drop by my Facebook page or message me at @SmChangeLife on Twitter. I’d love to hear about your journey and how I can help.